Does the idea of a first date make you feel nervous?
If the answer is YES then you’re not alone.
It’s only natural to feel nervous on a first date.
Feeling slightly nervous is a good thing. You’re on your toes. You’re wide awake. You’ll go to your date with your eyes wide open.
DON’T drink alcohol to get rid of this feeling.
Breathe deeply and get this situation into perspective.
This is just a first date- you’re not getting married here! Think of 5 topics you’d like to discuss with your date- remember not to make this into an interview. The questions should lead to to some easy conversation, with a score of 50/50 meaning that both people get a chance to speak. Try not to get too intimate with your questions, keep things easy and don’t judge. If you like your date then we can arrange a second date with the same person for you. Don’t be pushy.
And please don’t dismiss your date because they’re not your type. You’ve got to be open minded here. Give the person a chance.
Don’t compare your date to an ex or somebody else that you know.
Give them a chance.
Before, think of some interesting topics:
-What are your dreams & ambitions?
-Who is your favourite band/singer?
-Do you have a favourite author/book?
-What’s the best place you’ve ever visited & where would you love to go?
-What do you do in your spare time?
-Where are you from? Where would you like to live?
We do recommend that you keep the date to a maximum of 2 hours. You can always meet again.Don’t get sucked into the modern world- getting to know somebody does take time.Please don’t bring up everything about yourself- there really is no obligation, there’s no rush.
And there are some topics that you really should avoid.
If alcohol makes you say too much then go easy…
You don’t have to discuss your exs or dating history. This is not a competition- again don’t be judgemental. Keep your conversation positive- there’s no need to go on a 15 minute rant!
Some people don’t like to discuss their age- be sensitive. Why would you ask this when you’ve only just met anyway. Don’t Love Bomb- google this if you don’t know what I mean. If your date pouring it on thick then take a rain check- make an excuse to go to the bathroom! No sex discussions- come on! This is the time to get to know your date. If you’re looking for a one night stand you’re on the wrong website. Don’t give your phone number YET. Play by our rules and arrange a second date through us. You’re not in a race!
Keep your boundaries.
And if you need more help/advice contact us at Chorlton Dating.